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CFA relationship problems?

  • This topic has 22 replies, 11 voices, and was last updated Mar-17 by christine.
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    • hairyfairy
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      Anyone having relationship problems because of the amount of time studying for the CFA? Just wondering.

    • fabian
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      Not CFA, but I did have a work project that cost me a long-term relationship. That was crap.

    • policedog
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      Not CFA, but I did have a work project that cost me a long-term relationship. That was crap.

      I’ve seen one strained through CFA. Plenty ended because of work. Any issue in particular @hairyfairy?

    • Snippy
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      Luckily not for me. In fact, it was my girlfriend who encouraged me to write the L1 exam again in June even though i wasn’t keen initially after finding out i failed the first time.

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      Luckily not for me. In fact, it was my girlfriend who encouraged me to write the L1 exam again in June even though i wasn’t keen initially after finding out i failed the first time.

      Lucky guy!

    • Reena
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      so the big question is: how do we get them to understand and be supportive?

    • tacheman
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      Make them take the exam too. They will understand how mind-numbingly hard it is, and they would be supportive.

    • hairyfairy
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      Currently I’m feeling the weekend problem – the problem that on weekends, I really want to catch up on studies. Currently the boyfriend has been really understanding but I can see that it’s starting to bug him 2/3 months in. He’s also spending more and more time with friends I’m not too crazy about (totally understand that he’s bored though).

      How do I keep this up for another 2+ months?

    • Snippy
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      I think it’s just about having a well detailed discussion about the whole thing. If it works out, great! Otherwise, you need to think on it and make the decisions that need to be made. Maybe its easier for me because i’m not working.

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      I agree with @sidmenon. Obviously this is a bit beyond my expertise here (I’m no relationship expert) but I’ve always felt with all tricky issues in relationships, the best solution is to have a proper sit-down conversation about this.

      Explain to him that this is not because you want to ignore him, and you will need weekends in order to get through this exam. If necessary, take some time to take him through the syllabus!

      If he’s worth keeping, he’ll see that this is important to you and he only needs to be patient for a few more months.

    • fabian
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      Explain it to him and he should understand. If he doesn’t you should think about whether he’s worth sticking around for.

    • hairyfairy
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      The issue is whether you’d want a confrontation (and possible argument) of that magnitude while studying for the CFA exams… that’ll be a week or so wasted.

    • Reena
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      But this may be the precise moment where this needs to be addressed, rather than let it blow up a week before the exams, @hairyfairy? Confrontations (or rather frank discussions) are never easy…

    • Snippy
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      @hairyfairy Exactly, like @Reena said, there’s a never a right time because it is not going to be easy at all. But the best thing to do is to get it done with as soon as possible.

    • hairyfairy
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      true that… sigh.

    • Snippy
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      Best of luck @hairyfairy! Hope things turn out for the best!

    • tacheman
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      Good luck @hairyfairy!!!

    • hairyfairy
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      Kind of sorted it out – took an entire Saturday but in the end managed a solution. Thanks for all the advice guys! 🙂

    • Snippy
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      @hairyfairy That’s great news! 😀

    • Sophie Macon
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      Well you can always bribe your other half with ice cream/chocolate/burger/pizza burger (yes there’s such things)…

    • artyeasel
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      Glad it all worked out @hairyfairy 🙂

    • AjFinance
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      @hairyfairy :-bd Its one of my fav emoticon.

    • christine
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      Good that it’s all worked out now @hairyfairy!

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